Building Strong Relationships by Conversation

    The more people you interact with every day the better it is. According to the most recent medical research, maintaining ties that bind you to others (family, friends – old & new) is more important than previously thought.

    There is evidence strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. People with strong social relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely. By having a caring friend can provide a buffer against the effects of stress. 2012 International Gallup poll found that people who feel they have friends and families to count on are generally more satisfied with their personal health than people who feel isolated.

    Conversing skills is a must have in today’s world yet electronic devices seem to be taking us further away from the art of conversing and communicating.

There are ten rules to apply to your conversations:

    1. Be genuinely interested in the person – who they are, what they do, etc.
    2. Focus on the positives – talk about positive topics. Happiness teaching us to see the positives over the negatives in every situation.
    3. Converse, not debate – a conversation is where opinions are being expressed, not a battle ground.
    4. Respect; don’t impose, criticize or judge – everyone has his/her right to be themselves, just as you have the right to be yourself.
    5. Put the person in his/her best light – give credit when credit is due. Drop compliments where appropriate.
    6. Embrace differences while building on commonalities – everyone is different, we all are unique.
    7. Be true to yourself – your best asset is your true personality. Embrace it and let it shine, don’t cover it up!
    8. 50-50 Sharing – a great conversation should be 50-50, equal sharing by both parties. Just because the person doesn’t ask doesn’t mean you can’t share.
    9. Ask purposeful questions – to have a meaningful conversation with the other person, ask meaningful questions.
    10. Give and take – sometimes people say some pretty weird stuff, don’t judge them for their comments.

“While you can’t control someone’s negative behavior you can control how long you participate in it.” ~Kylo

 

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