What exactly does self-image mean? Self-image is what you believe other people think about you! This is not always the truth of what others believe about you but it is what YOU believe and that is what matters!
Appearance is one of the building blocks to our self-image. Seven out of 10 Americans said Physical appearance is important “in terms of happiness, social life and the ability to get ahead.”
Once you realize people are judging your appearance before they know your talents, you quickly learn to be more conscious of your appearance. We tend to make judgements based on the visual data we gather.
What does your appearance have to say about you?
- Self-esteem: what people see on the outside lets them know how you feel on the inside.
- Self-respect: those who respect themselves dress accordingly.
- Confidence: your goal is to create an aura of confidence when you walk in the room.
- Organizational skills: recruiters often say they use appearance to judge organizational skills.
- Attention to detail: 90% of your image is made by clothing.
- Creativity: accessories show your creativity.
- Soundness of judgment: knowing and wearing the appropriate outfit, shows accurate decision making.
- Reliability: all of the above factors form the big picture to the details.
The Ten Commandments of Self-Care by Valorie Burton
- Use all of your vacation time every year.
Be intentional about taking time off. Take out your calendar this week and schedule your vacation time for the next 12 months.
- Commit your time off solely to non-work related activities.
Keep your time with family and friends sacred by setting boundaries around your personal time so that work does not interfere. You need time to recuperate from work so that you’ll be more professionally productive. If you work from home, set work hours and close the office door during your off hours.
- Take your rest seriously.
We’ve all heard it, but too few practice it: Get eight hours of sleep. Being well-rested builds immunity, keeps you from being irritable, and simply gives your body what it needs. Be a good steward over the body you’ve been blessed with. It may take some extra discipline to do it consistently, but you can do it. How about starting tonight?
4. Have fun at least once a week.
What do you like to do for fun? Having fun every day would be the ideal, but try to at least do something simply for the fun of it on a weekly basis. Scientific studies have shown that positive emotion builds your emotional capacity to handle adversity and stress, and be more open and creative. If life’s gotten so hectic that you don’t even know what to do for fun, make a game out of trying new things until you find what fun is for you.
- Eat regularly, preferably sitting down.
Do you eat on the go? Skip meals? Dine in front of the television? Eating offers an opportunity not only to refuel your body, but to reconnect with yourself and others. If you don’t have time to eat three meals a day sitting down, it’s a sign that it’s time to reclaim your schedule.
- Exercise regularly, preferably standing up.
It is essential to stand up and get moving! Whether it’s walking, fitness classes, or a favorite sport, get your heart rate up at least three to four times per week for 30 – 45 minutes. Exercise should be a part of your life just like brushing your teeth or eating dinner. Rather than considering it “optional,” find a way to make it a part of your lifestyle.
- Be fruitful and productive, not busy.
Do you have a habit of getting distracted easily? You start the day with a great to-do list and by 5 o’clock you’ve barely crossed anything off the list? We are meant to be fruitful – to produce the fruit of the Spirit and make meaningful progress in life. Being busy is about having a lot of activity without much to show for it. Aim to be productive.
- Use technology to gain time, not consume it.
If you are like many people in today’s culture, you manage multiple e-mail accounts, home, work, and cell phones along with accompanying voice mail for each, text messages, and perhaps a Blackberry, too. Plus, you’ve got more choices than ever with cable and satellite television, TiVo, satellite radio, and mp3 players. All of these things are supposed to give you better choices, save time, and make your life better. But only if you learn to use them to gain time and not consume it. Establish personal rules with the technology you use – respond to e-mail at specific times rather than reacting to it as soon as it arrives, turn off the cell phone at dinner, and be vigilant about clearing the clutter of old messages.
- Connect heart-to-heart with the people who matter.
One of the worst consequences of busyness is that you become disconnected from the people who matter. When having a conversation, stop multi-tasking and look the person in the eye. It says, “What you say is important.” Connect intentionally and your relationships will be better for it.
- Be led by the Spirit.
In a busy world where everyone voices their opinion about what you should be doing, it can be tempting not to trust the voice of the Holy Spirit that speaks directly to you. The answers you need lie within you. But you have to quiet down and slow down long enough to hear that still, small voice. Have the courage to follow it. It won’t lead you astray.
Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live. ~ Jim Rohn
- Taking Charge of Your Life – we all have many people who influence our lives, but ultimately we MUST take charge of our LIFE. It is good to collect other people’s opinions, don’t use other people’s opinions to make your final decision! The decision needs to be yours!
5 Key ingredients to living a life that is fulfilling:
- Faith – you have to believe in something, God put me here for a reason!
- Direction – you must have direction if you are going to accomplish anything worthwhile.
- Consistent Action – you can only reach your goals by taking consistent action. Being consistent means setting aside time to accomplish your goals. Consistent action includes taking care of you. You will function more efficiently if your mind and body are functioning at peak conditions.
- Flexibility – don’t FEAR change! Changes become necessary based on the information that wasn’t previously available at the point of your original decision.
- Patience – without patience you will never reach your destination. You will give up in frustration.
Lillian D Bjorseth, Duoforce Enterprises Inc.
Valorie Burton, How Did I Get So Busy
Barry Goss, Editor SelfGrowth.com